Partner Wants You to Change Your Job for Them? The Red Flags
The Situation
"She demands I switch to a 9-5 even though I love my job"
The Brutal Truth
She’s trying to control your life choices because she’s insecure and believes her needs outweigh your passion. This behavior screams possessiveness, showing a lack of respect for your autonomy and happiness. Toxicity is high here; this isn't love—it's manipulation.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might comply and prioritize her demands over their passions, fearing rejection or abandonment. This is toxic because it fuels resentment and undermines self-worth. You deserve to honor your happiness, not sacrifice it for someone else's comfort.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What beliefs do I hold about my own happiness and its importance in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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