Why Your Partner's Friends Treat You Like an ATM - Red Flags
The Situation
"Her friends treat me like an ATM during nights out"
The Brutal Truth
Her friends see you as a source of money rather than a partner. This means they're either disrespectful or there's a lack of boundaries. You're being used, and it's time to recognize that you deserve better than being someone's financial backup.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel compelled to keep spending to prove their worth or win approval, thinking that financial generosity will cement the relationship. This is wrong because it undermines self-worth and builds unhealthy dynamics instead of fostering genuine connection.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to establish boundaries around your generosity in dating?
✨ What To Do Next
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