Why Paying for Dates with a Traditional Man is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He said he's traditional but expects me to pay for dates"
The Brutal Truth
He claims to be traditional but is comfortable exploiting your generosity. This reveals a mindset of entitlement and a lack of respect for mutual effort in a relationship. It's a classic case of mixed signals that should not be ignored.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overcompensate by agreeing to pay or worrying excessively about what he thinks, validating his entitled behavior. This only reinforces ineffective patterns and reduces their self-worth.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
If your best friend were in this situation, what would you tell her about her worth and the expectations she should have in dating?
✨ What To Do Next
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