Recognizing Sabotage: How Fights Before Deadlines Signal Toxicity
The Situation
"She sabotages my focus by picking fights before big deadlines"
The Brutal Truth
Her actions aren’t about love; they’re designed to distract and manipulate. By starting fights before your deadlines, she’s prioritizing her emotional needs over your success, showing a lack of respect and support. It’s a toxic tactic to keep you engaged at her expense.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might attempt to appease her by compromising their own priorities, fearing confrontation and loss. This is detrimental as it perpetuates unhealthy dynamics and enables her manipulative behaviors instead of asserting their own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do I truly need in a partner to feel supported, and am I settling for less?
✨ What To Do Next
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