Understanding Support vs Undermining in Relationships
The Situation
"He said he's supportive but undermines my goals"
The Brutal Truth
He says he's supportive, but his actions show he doesn't really believe in you. He's likely trying to control the narrative by making you doubt your goals, keeping you dependent on him.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to seek validation by constantly asking for his approval or reassurance. This is wrong because it fuels insecurity and allows his undermining tactics to continue unchecked.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to surround yourself with people who genuinely uplift and encourage your ambitions?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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