Understanding Mixed Signals: Gifts in Relationships
The Situation
"She says mailing gifts is clingy yet wants constant gifts"
The Brutal Truth
She's manipulating you. Calling your generosity clingy while demanding constant gifts reflects a lack of self-awareness and respect for your boundaries. This is classic emotional unavailability—she wants the perks without reciprocating care. It’s a toxic game that needs to end now.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may constantly seek validation, worrying they aren't enough if she criticizes their gestures. This behavior is toxic as it reinforces the cycle of insecurity and puts their self-worth on the line for someone who doesn't appreciate it.
💭 Something to Reflect On
Why do I feel I need to earn someone's affection or approval?
✨ What To Do Next
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