Why Tracking Your Downtime in a Relationship is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He tracks my downtime on shared calendars"
The Brutal Truth
He wants to control your time and know where you are at all times. This is less about caring and more about possessiveness and insecurity. Healthy relationships encourage independence and trust, not surveillance.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-explain their schedule or make excuses to justify their availability, fearing that they'll disappoint or upset him. This is wrong because it compromises your autonomy and creates unnecessary stress.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
How does it feel to have someone monitor your time, and what do you believe you deserve in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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