Understanding Dangerous Dating Behaviors: Leaving Candles Burning
The Situation
"She leaves candles burning when she leaves the house"
The Brutal Truth
Leaving candles burning when leaving a house shows a serious lack of responsibility and disregard for safety. This behavior reflects reckless tendencies and possibly an inability to handle adult responsibilities—definitely a huge red flag for a partner's maturity and reliability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might assume it's fine or overlook the danger, trying to justify the behavior to keep the relationship alive. This is wrong because it ignores the serious risk and can lead to bigger issues down the road.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do you need to establish to feel safe in a relationship and protect your peace?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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