Understanding Gaslighting: When He Blames You for His Bad Behavior
The Situation
"She said I'm the problem when she's the one acting badly"
The Brutal Truth
His behavior means he's deflecting blame to avoid accountability. Instead of addressing his own issues, he manipulates the situation to cast you as the villain. This is a classic gaslighting tactic, diminishing your reality and feelings for his comfort.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or try to prove they're not the problem, seeking validation and acceptance. This is harmful because it reinforces negative patterns and allows manipulation to continue.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What patterns do you notice in relationships where blame is shifted onto you, and how can you protect your self-worth next time?
✨ What To Do Next
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