Understanding Mixed Signals: When Physical Intimacy Matters
The Situation
"She said physical intimacy isn't important but gets upset when I don't initiate"
The Brutal Truth
She claims physical intimacy isn't a priority, but her upset feelings indicate a classic case of mixed signals. This suggests she might not be fully aware of her own needs or is expecting you to read her mind. Neither is healthy.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or over-explain their actions, trying to seek reassurance and avoid conflict. This approach is problematic because it reinforces the dynamic of confusion, rather than fostering open communication and understanding.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
How can you better express your needs to avoid misunderstandings in the future?
✨ What To Do Next
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