Understanding Unequal Financial Expectations in Dating
The Situation
"He expects me to split everything 50/50 but makes twice as much"
The Brutal Truth
He's trying to make you feel guilty for not paying half, even though he earns significantly more. This is a power play disguised as equality, showing he lacks understanding and respect for your financial boundaries.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might agree to split costs to avoid conflict or gain his approval, which devalues their own worth. This leads to resentment and financial strain, reinforcing unhealthy patterns.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does it say about your self-worth when you feel obligated to meet someone else's unbalanced expectations?
✨ What To Do Next
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