Should You Pay Utilities if You Cook? Red Flags Explained
The Situation
"She refuses to pay her share of utilities because she cooks"
The Brutal Truth
She's using cooking as a manipulation tactic to avoid sharing expenses. This indicates a lack of respect and accountability in the relationship, showing her priorities are self-serving rather than equitable.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-explain their reasons for paying more or apologize excessively to smooth things over, thinking it will keep the peace. This only reinforces toxic dynamics and undermines their worth.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What boundaries am I willing to set to ensure my needs are respected in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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