Navigating Relationship Differences: When She Wants Kids and He Doesn't
The Situation
"She wants kids and I don't"
The Brutal Truth
He doesn't want to commit to a future with her. While she desires to build a family, he is stuck in a mentality of avoiding responsibility. This means he’s not ready or willing to sacrifice his own wants for a genuine partnership.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might pressure him to reconsider his stance, believing they can change his mind or resolve their differences. This is a toxic mindset because it neglects personal needs, and leads to unhealthy attachment and potential resentment.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to prioritize your own vision for the future over someone else's preferences?
✨ What To Do Next
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