Why He Won't Let You Talk to His Family About Immigration Plans
The Situation
"He won't let me talk to his family about our immigration plans"
The Brutal Truth
He's likely hiding something or doesn't take your relationship seriously. By preventing you from discussing immigration with his family, he’s controlling the narrative and avoiding accountability. This behavior screams disinterest in your mutual future and respect for you.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince him to let her talk to his family, fearing it might jeopardize the relationship. This is wrong because it can lead to further manipulation and reinforces his control, ultimately diminishing her self-worth and increasing dependency.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does my gut tell me about his true feelings for me, and why do I feel compelled to accept less?
✨ What To Do Next
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